How Hard Can Life Be!

Sometimes all you want to do is just stop pretending to be bold and brave and just break down. Hug the next person appearing in front of you, hug them tight and just yell out that you are not okay and you need help. To have someone who would just sit by your side without questioning or judging is indeed a big deal, and not many are lucky enough to get that company.

I have always tried to be that someone to atleast one person I have met and fortunately wasl successful. All thanks to what I go through on a regular basis and the struggle to fight it out, all alone. And that's not easy. Because people want you to behave a certain way; no matter how much you don't care about what others say or do or expect, sometimes you fall into that trap of pretending to be something they want you to be, not because you are afraid. Its just the realisation that they are not meant to stick through your downs or are ready to understand you ever.

Loneliness isn't easy. You may turn it to solitude and find solace, but loneliness will hit you hard, and beat you down. You ought to pick yourself up, because you have no other choice. No one is going to do that for you. If someone did, you wouldn't be going through this shit on first place.

Sometimes, out of helplessness, you turn to someone for help, you explain what you are going through and request them to help you. But, all you would get in return would be worse than your real issue. They expect you to explain what exactly your problem is and how they could help you. What they don't realise is, if you knew what it was or had a solution, you wouldn't be seeking help on first place. All you need is someone who can just be a listener. And make you feel that you are not alone. Someone who would ask you "are you okay?" when you are not and just sit and listen without complaining or show the practical side of life. But who has time for all that, right?

But, that's okay. Sometimes you gotta lose hope in people in order to build faith in yourself. Your problem is just yours; no one else is going to share it with you. Be it your agony of living next to the love of your life who is already married, or your parents being more considerate to your sibling or the physical pain you are going through or your fear of being judged or mistreated or not having a life that you deserve or losing someone you love to the hands of death or being sad for unknown reasons - whatever it be only you can help yourself. Honestly, even you wouldn't pay a heed to another to their 'pointless' cribbing or whining. So be it. Just deal with it.

You are not born to quit. You gotta try, try try try and try. You may still not win. But you gotta try. You should never stop loving people just because they are not loving you back. Stay selfless if that's the way you are. Never lose your style, because that makes you you and noone  should change that. Just lowering your expectations would do the rest. Loneliness would still hit you hard, but you need to bounce back until death captivates you. Otherwise, what's the point in living all the while.

Man Detox - How to Get Rid of a Toxic Person from Life

Here, we are going to discuss not about  negative, evil people, but the ones you thought were right, who eventually turned out to be toxic.

Everyone makes mistakes, for the fact that we are humans, the mistake part is quite involuntary. But there will be times when a certain someone or a group of people deny to forgive you for a mistake you have done purposely or not; or the sorts who would make mistakes but deny to apologise. They just wouldn't listen to you, treat you like you don't exist, make you whine for the rest of your life and let you do all kinds of nonsense you wouldn't do otherwise. People who are so spineless to confront or apologise because they are just too self obsessed and wouldn't mind breaking anyone's heart. These are the toxic people we need to address and you should be flushing out of your life.

Here is the detoxification programme (free of cost, of course. Can pay me if you wish to once you see results) which would help you help yourself. 

1. Day 1 - CRY. Yes, cry to infinity. Think about all the good things you had done, all the good memories, how you miss that certain someone and CRY. Listen to heart wrenching songs, watch all the movies that would hurt you, do everything that reminds you of that person and CRY. Cry from morning till you sleep off, or midway to sleep or whenever you feel like crying. Basically, in this detoxification programme, you wouldn't get much days to cry, so cry as much as you want. No one is going to stop you, even if someone does, ask them to mind their own business. Warning : DON'T TALK TO ANYONE, especially about that certain someone. 
2. Day 2 - Go, meet a friend who cares. That friend who would just sit and listen to all your nonsense, wouldn't advice you or say anything back, but just console you. That's the kind of people you need right now, and make sure you don't open up to anyone else.
3. Day 3 - Drink, smoke, smoke up, have sex, eat whatever you feel like eating. Basically do anything that makes you feel better. BUT DON'T TALK unnecessarily to unrelated people.
4. Day 4- 6 - Repeat one or more of these if you aren't feeling any good.
5. Day 7 - Go meet a friend, who cares. Who would just shout at you, and get things real on your head. Basically, tell you those things that you already know and make you feel miserable, but that's ok. You need such people too in your life. 
6. Day 10 - Listen to good music, happy music. Watch happy movies and avoid anything that would remind you of that certain someone. But, DON'T TALK about that certain someone. 
7. Day 12 - If you haven't gotten over it, remind yourself that this is not the first or will not be the first heartbreak. You will eventually get over this too, the sooner the better.
8. Day 21 - Eat healthy, work out. Engage in good practices. Try quitting an unhealthy habit. Could be smoking, or eating junk food. But, DON'T TALK about that certain someone. 
9. Day 22-31 - Repeat one or more of 6-7 if you still aren't feeling any good. These are good habits.
10. Day 32 - You can start a new hobby or resume an old one. Like writing, crafting, learning to play a musical instrument, etc. All you need to do is take your mind off wrong thoughts. So, do productive stuff. But, DON'T TALK about that certain someone. 
11. Day 44 - Still stuck up? . Get a haircut. Hair cut sometimes makes you feel better, especially for women. Go for a solo trip. Be at peace. But, DON'T TALK about that certain someone. 
12. Day 60 - It is kind of sad that you've still not got rid of the toxic person out of your life. Tell yourself, you can't cry over flushing off crap through the pot because it once used to be your favorite food. You can't get obsessed with shit, literally.
13. Day 75 - If you couldn't help yourself yet, probably nothing or no one can help you. Sorry! 

This is an elaborated version of the programme. You can cut it short according to the changes you see in yourself. Like, you can skip day one or two and start directly from day 3 and then do what's mentioned on day 7. Whatever suits you better! 

PS: You're restricted to talk to anyone, strictly because you would end up talking about that person, thereby attracting more toxic towards you, making it even difficult to remove the initial toxic. So DON'T TALK about that certain someone. It's never gonna help. 

THANK ME LATER.

To the Unknown Love of My Life...

Amidst a pile of work, I decided to write this piece of article because I realised this is far more important to me than anything else.

Well, I don't know who you are. May be you are the one who smiled at me from the corner of that coffee shop the other day. Or the one I didn't even feel like paying a heed to on that close friend's house party. You may be that best friend of mine I had grown up with. Or that random stranger I stumbled upon on Facebook. You could be anyone, and that still remains a mystery.

I have met couple of men who had disguised as you, which obviously turned out to be bad. And I am sure, you would have gone through the same as well. Because the true love of my life is actually you and your's mine. And we haven't met yet!

May be we did. May be you are the one I tagged as 'Brother' last week. Or that friend who got married last year. Could be the one I broke up with last decade. May be we know each other, but not as how it has to be.

I have gone through the agony of not finding you, and  misinterpreting the wrong ones as you. Whatever it be, over the years, I learnt something precious. The more delay you take to find me, the merrier my life gets. Irony, I know. But that's what the truth is!

I know how to take care of myself, how to handle my expenses, how to deal with the loneliness. and that makes me happy. I probably don't need you anymore because I am afraid, my peace of mind will be destroyed once you enter. There is no joy like sitting in the couch enjoying a coffee or a drink watching your favorite TV show. Or the cheesiest movie in the history of World Cinema, without anyone judging. And I am sure, even you would love it that way.

So, as long as I decide to be single, it is quite obvious that you too will remain to be one. Or you may choose to be with someone else who would disguise as the love of your life, and may be someday it will fall apart. may be it won't, but you wouldn't be happy because your true love is actually the one who posted this blogpost. May be you would choose to be single too, and we might meet someday, and explore the world together, see the sunset and travel around together..... we will be together, yet single. Because we chose life to be that way.