To every Indian parent - Chuck it guys !!!

This has been running in our society for ages that parents would always say "NO" to every decision their child makes -

"Daddy, can i go for a movie?'

"NO"

"Mamma, can i  have that ice cream?"

"NO"

"Mamma & Daddy, can i go to sleep?"

"NO"

"NO" for everything.. Then, imagine how it'd be when it comes to marrriage.

"Love" relations are most of the times treated as a sin.. Arrrgh!!! Guys isnt that cool to find a guy/gal whom u think u can spend the rest of ur life with happily like most of the movies show?? What's so wrong about it?? As if "arranged marriages" are always a success!

In many cases, they say "no" coz

1. the guy/gal their child found is :

• not from a financially sound family - oh yeah !! dowry is a crime but still they think its bloody cool to give n take lakhs n crores as if u r buying them from a grocery shop !!
• not from the same caste - hello? what's this caste thing all about? Some hypocrite put forward for their sake n millions are still folowing it meaninglessly!
• not from the same religion - huh.. forget about it !! we cant even imagine about our child getting married to some one in another caste, n you are talking about religion !!!
• has got a horoscope which says if these two get married your grandfather's grandfather's soul will not get moksha - Hell with it!!
• the child of someone, whoz sister-in-law's mother's sister's husband's mother's uncle's son's wife's aunt had an inter caste marriage ! - Errrrrr... what??? Oh yeah...! There's someone from another caste in thefamily ! oh, i see!
• has got a pot belly - huh? Y in the world!!! - if i dont have a problem with his/her goddamn it looks, what's bothering you??
• is elder - now, that's a pretty unique case - the gal should always be younger... if not, that's another sin !!! We are all done mentioning about Sachin Tendulkar, Abhishek Bachchan and their wives...
• a non- veggie !! no comments !!

They have millions of other reasons too which we wouldnt even imagine in our dreams !!

Children these days are too smart - they dont wanna elope, they dont want their parents to say "no" to their relation, so they enquire about each and everything about someone whom they are attracted to before getting into a relation- from their dad's bank balance to how many times a day they brush their teeth, so that the parent wouldnt find one small mistake to reject it, n they can have a safe, settled life ahead. Still these parents would say no, for the reason being their child chose his/her partner on her own which inturn is parents' duty! WTF !!

We live in a world where in countries other than ours, parents doubt their child's sexual orientation if he/she doesnt have a BF or GF...." Living together" is so much in !! And poor your children, they dont have a GF/BF just to have "fun", they want to get "married" as you want them to be. Still you are showing your f**king attitude !! Is that coz, J (J for Jealousy) works in you as u were not able to marry the one you loved coz of uir parents ;)

If the child seem to be strong enough on their decision, then there comes the Emotional torture - emosanal atyacchaar as we call it. Stiill, if the child doesnt give a damn, then comes the famous dialogue "You will understand only when u become a parent".... As if parents are meant only to reject child's wishes...

If in case they quit the task of convincing you n plan to elope, and then, that's one hell of a crime u've done... U'll be wrapped with curses....And if u choose to end up ur life, then they'd come up sayin' u cud've tried a bit more to convince us..(i dont support both though) Arrrghhhhhh.... Gimme a break !!!!

And finally, when the child somehow manages to convince parents and gets back to his/her love, he/she might have got married someone else!

ENNA KODUMAI SIR ITHU" :'(

So parents, just chuck it.. after all its their life, let them live with whoever they want... Y torturing them..? Its quite obvious that, u r doing this for the sake of the good-for-nothing "society" who u meet at some party or that sort, who'd ask youy ur child did so... Listen, this society has nothing to do wid your life, they're always their to crticize or to blame... So let ur child's wish be done... Whether their marriage wud be a success or failure that's upto them.. They choose it, so whatever happens is what their deed brings them.. And still if you wanna go for the society, mind you, the society's not gonna feed you at your oldage... If u go against ur child's wish, dont blame them when they dump u in some oldage home ;)

PS : This has nothin' to do with me, my life or my parents...!! 

An early note to the man, whoever that is ;)

Okay... I know you have decided to be with me for the rest of your life, but I guess I should give you a chance to think about it, as I've a list of terms & conditions that might drive you nuts, but let me make it clear, I'm NOT gonna lower the standards I've set! ;) 

• First and foremost, the saree i'd be wearing for the wedding would be simple, less expensive... I prefer not to waste money on useless things :) I know you have nothing to do with that, but it might matter to the ladies on your side ;) 

• Don't expect me to wear  much gold; the next thing I'm gonna say might blow your mind off - I'm not crazy about that metal :) 

• Hey, do u like SALMAN KHAN? Do you? If not, just prepare yourself to be his fan, coz i dont wanna debate over it...I just love him... ;)

•  Do u like SHAHRUKH KHAN? If  yes, well... I dont wanna debate over it as well.. i just hate him...! So u know what you are supposed to do ;)

• Am a great foodie... Indian, Chinese, Italian... Slurppp...You know cooking right? :) Alright, kidding I'm a good cook, but I'm not gonna do it all for myself, help me with the cutting, grinding, etc etc parts :)
• The house is not just mine, it's ours. So lets split the household works :)

• I looooooooooooooove long drives... That too in the middle of the night.. Hope you like it too :)

• Are you a singer? Man... i wish you were one.. I mean, not that great to have "fans",  female fans i mean... :-| but one who can manage to sing, and bowl me over ... *Blush*

• Mind getting me chocolates daily? ;) 

• I wouldn't mind you watching football matches or cricket... But then, always remember, family comes first :)

• Classical music, Opera, Jazz blah blaah...WILL NOT  be entertained... pure filmy music rocks ;)

• Love spending more time with your friends? well, you'll get your space, to some extent :P 

• You have problems with the long list of  friends I've, majority being guys? Well, they are, they will and always be my friends....  I assure, they are very decent people and me n them, we know our limits :)

• Me having problems with your list of female friends... well.... limits please... I wouldn't mind :)

• If you dare to do anything offensive, beware... Am updating it right away in Facebook !! :D

• Am nuts, sarcastic, possessive, dumb, sick and all that... better be comfortable or else its gonna be hard for both of us :D

• When i say I dont love you or miss you, its actually the other way around n if i say i love you or miss you.. its worth believing :)

• Don't ever argue... and always listen.. Pretension will not be entertained... n once caught red handed, u'll have to pay for it! 

Well, the list goes on n on... n i prefer discussing many in person... Get ready to face the devil ;) I swear, i feel sorry for you, but again, we have no other option left ;) I prefer to remain the same, and i want you to respect that :)

PS : Most of the points mentioned are exaggerated and overrated... :D so dont ya worry.. am not that a baddie.... u'll have a  close to peaceful life ;)

And the good times are over !!!

Meetin' a hell lot of people at that point of tym where u fail to recognize whom to trust n whom not to, when you literally have no friends to point out, and still these people become a vital part of ur life.... You start trustin' them, hopin' they would never do anything offensive like all other idiots did... And finally u start calin'l them FRIENDS which you really mean the way it is !! You reach a point where you cant imagine a life without them, and even if they say they dont consider you as a friend or they where plannin' n plottin' behind you, you'd laugh out loud coz u know they were kidding !!

Hours of chats, conference chats... Yahoo! being your home, which later swaps to Orkut n then FB... and then hours of phone calls, conference calls too, and all these with no particular topic...u'd discuss about anything n everything under the sun without gettin' bored.... And when exam comes, wakin' up each other instead of keepin' an alarm clock, combine studies mostly over phone.... Meeting each other rarely, but even then, havin lotsa fun when together...Making fun of each other for nothing... Sharin' all ur dreams, happiness, worries n most importantly those silly things, broken love stories to be more precise  ;) which the other wud listen as if thats the most important thing to be solved....

Entry of their GFs & BFs,  having grudges and fighting for their BFs, realizing later, no one really would fall for that stupid BF of urs other dan u.. ;) who inturn become a member of the gang, with same things applicable to them... n then being frnds for a life time..

And then comes those stupid fights which makes you keep away from each other for months ( usually the social hibernation idea ;) but pickin' up easily as if nothing  happened n swearing at you for the same on a random day.... 

Years passes by, everyone becomes busy with their things - hospitals, offices, ABBs, L&Ts,  Banks, Infys, Tatas, IIMs, marrriages steal the major part  of your time.... Hardly would you find time for each other... But deep inside, the bond, the feeling of togetherness, the fun times, everything would remain unaltered... u'd miss each other, and at some point of time, you feel like rewindin' your life to the day you met n never ever want it to get over...!!

Dedicated to those stupid, nasty, good-for-nothing, crazy people i met 4 years back who made my life worth living,made me realize what exactly friendship is, n made me understand- to be friends, you dont have to study in the same school  or college or wherever, or meet often, but share the true relation called friendship....... Thank you guys for accepting me, makin' me a part of that gang, takin  all the crap from me n still considerin' me as a friend... You guys are nuts, so am i... Love ya all... :)

Kiran, Vishu, Apu, Thampi, Harikuttan, Lechu n Manu.... :)

Losing your senses, realizing but unable to help it

Sometimes, the feeling of being lost and lonely suffocates you so much that no matter how hard you try to get over it you come back to that particular point where you were in. You may try to be or act happy as  you always do, but that never shows coz the agony rules you more than anything else. Even the music, movies and playin with kids which kept you engaged n brought smile on your face may not do the needful. You just keep on whinin' to yourself unable to express your sob story to anyone as you know that's not gonna help you out.

You feel  like a born retard who has no clue what's happening around n y people dont give a damn about you. Years of loneliness n u gettin' used to it n then someone changes the whole scenario within a matter of seconds givin' you love, hope, care n everything you longed for, becomes your family, your best friend, brother, sister n everything n then disappears one fine morning leavin' you in trauma which is worser than how things used to be. You realize love n care was what you always wanted. And then, you tryin' to get over it, tryin' to find that love and care or rather that person in everyone you meet n end up in vein. Being a joker in front of everyone, with ur sob stories hopin atleast sum1 would understand your feelings, but then realizing that no one really appreciate the sadness in you, everyone wants FUN which sometimes you fail to provide.

Even after knowing you got hell lot of serious issues to deal with, but sometimes you  find this as the most serious one. And finally u yourself  choose to be alone which might appear dumb to others, but u feel you are better this way, tryin' to start over new, hiding all your sadness, not to get a nervous breakdown n show others that you are strong enough to face all these silly things with no one's help. But once in a while you feel lost n end up being the dumbest person on earth writing all the stupid things on your blog or some other social networking site which has no point at all to be shared.

To the sweetest Amma on Earth, With love :)

I consider myself as one of the luckiest souls coz i own one of the sweetest persons on earth as my mother. ! :) I still remember how i used to be with her when i was a kid. I couldnt imagine a day without lyin' on her lap, playin' with her, gettin scoldings from her for being naughty n sleepin' next her huggin her tight.. Those were the terrible days in my life when i was sent to my aunty's or granny's place for vacation. How dependent i was on her for each and everything..!!

And when i grew up, eventhough we fight for the silliest things - may b she showin' more care towards my sis, supportin' dad when i argue with him, giving out the chocolates that i had saved to my cousins ;) , doing the dumbest things.... I still cant think about a day without her. There was a time when i badly wanted to leave the place n did, i didnt miss her much, but now things have changed, and am happy about it :)

When u listen to ur husband n do things as he wants even if he is wrong, when you gimme those favorite cuisine of urs sayin you dont lyk it at all, when u treat people so well even though u know they dont have high regards for you or are jealous of you, when you help people when they are in need without expecting anything, when you love your husband and children so much, i often wonder how you manage to do all that, coz if i were in your place, i wouldnt give a crap about anything or any1 especially when i get a kiddo like me ;)

I know i often used to fight with you, lost temper n had behaved very badly, went to the extremes even by hurtin you in and out... i still find my points were right n you were wrong, but then, i could have chosen another way of letting you know things which wouldnt have hurt you. But i do admit, i was wrong at tyms too.... And am really sorry for all that i said and did and i mean it... And i very well know u had forgiven me, n thats the difference between you n me..!! I've a lot to learn from you !!

Love you Amma, love you so so soooooooo much.... I just love to be with you, irritate you, make fun of you, scream when you are asleep ;) n do all the nasty things just to see you turn red :) Come with me wherever i go, even when i get married, not for doing house hold stuffs as i often say ;) but to be with me, to teach me how a wife should be, how to look after children and to hold me tight when i feel low.. You are not the best mom in the world, i'd never say that.... But even if i get a chance to be the daughter of the best mom on earth, I'd still choose to be your kid :)

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY !! Love you ! :-* :-* :-*