What the society thinks unmarried women do and what we actually do!

Our society (read Indian) works such a way that one needs to run his/her life according to its preset rules. It decides when you should - start dating, get married, have sex, have babies- the list goes on. It doesn't just end up with when's... Don't take me wrong, the society not just interferes in your relationship maamla alone...  There are who's, what's why's, where's and how's too... Like, who your friends be, who your friends' parents be, who you should be with, what you should be doing with your life, where you should be working, where your parents should be,  how your life has to be and most importantly, why you should be like everyone else and lead a stereotypical life. It gets tougher each and every year because a digit gets added to your age every year. And if you dare not  to follow the rules, you are anti-social; you need help coz you are a psychotic! 

I know, men might have their own worries on those lines, but here, I wanna let out my share of frustration, being a woman surviving in this society. The laws say u can get married at the age of 18. But the society has kept a cut off of 22 which has now thankfully been raised to 25 (forcefully). That's the only  good thing society gave women. But, if u don't get hitched by that age, you are gonna face severe consequences. 

A woman past 25, unmarried and single...  If she is being nice to people that's to get attention. If she smiles at you, that's a hint... If she comes home late or goes for parties, she was getting laid. If she talks loud or defends herself, she definitely has someone to protect her - a married, rich, powerful man. If she earns more than your son does, she is a hooker. If she gets appreciation at work, she has been sleeping with her boss. And the best of all - She has not gotten any guy obviously and hence she is horny, easily available and can be hit on anytime with hardly any pickup lines. If she has male friends, she is horny, easily available and a slut too. If those male friends are married, then, she is horny, easily available, a sluts and a vamp too.

If a woman is single, that's because she chose her life to be that way; she hasn't found the man who she thinks could be compatible with her. If she decides not to get married, she has left her life free from getting fucked. If you believe that a woman's life gets a meaning only wen she could surrender herself to some man, live according to his will and satisfy his desires, that's your bloody problem and I think the mentioned situation is  the worst that can happen to any human being. She does think about sex like everyone else, but that doesn't mean she is horny and any Tom or Harry's dick can get her. If you give her that seductive look or touch her the way you shouldn't,and she still doesn't react, that's only because she didn't know it was your hint to get her laid !!! 

If you preach us that one needs someone to take care of him/her for the rest of their lives, then  I would want to mention the number of divorces that's been increasing each  year; Children no longer take care of their parents, coz they don't have time to,so i'd like to mention the increase in the number of home nurses and old-age homes too. 

We may have male friends, they might be married but  you should know that we would be friends with their spouses too. Stop giving us that 'you are a vamp' look. We are NOT horny and are not looking for someone or the other to 'do' it. You need to know that you are making things tough for us. Stop making us feel so insecure whenever we are up to something or interact with men! 

Listen up people! Please give us a break!  Once and for all... We have a fucking life  too! SO please stop assuming! 

That fear!

There would be days when you feel so low but wouldn't know why that's for. You would really want to talk to someone or cry out loud, but cannot for the same reason - you have no clue what all those are for!

There would be times when no matter how cold you become, the 'emotional' you comes out for no particular reason. You would sit idle wondering what's wrong. You would think, think and re-think on what would have gone wrong, but still wouldn't get an idea. You would end up concluding on something, but that may not be the actual reason.

There would be moments when you realize you have gotten closer to someone, and feel an emotional attachment with that person, when you have deliberately stopped yourself from doing it. You would realize certain things are not under your control and certain people are so good that you cannot stop yourself from being with them. All these would happen when you have forcefully learnt to live on your own, with no one around, or in the absence of the most loved person. You might be all cool with everything, but this one person would have managed to get you out of that comfort zone, knowingly or unknowingly. You would ask yourself what's happening with you, why can't you act cold or rude here, why did this certain someone become one major priority, and you would never have an answer.

All these would drive you nuts, especially when the other is unaware what's going inside your head. You would crave for an opportunity where you can tell yourself this person doesn't mean anything to you, but miserably fail. You would do everything to get back to the cold person that you were, but would fail again.

You would think too much and start panicking. You would be afraid of losing this person or getting hurt all over again. You would keep asking yourself lots of why's, when's, how's and what's, but would never get an answer. This would be something you always wanted to avoid, but then, you would witness it happening to you with no prior notification You would do all possible things to keep away from this person, but you would know, you have ended up thinking more than usual.

May be, the only solution for all these would be, getting hurt all over again, which would mold you to an even stronger person.