Mutated "Vaazha"

I don't know how or when this "Vaazha" term came into picture while referring to useless, jobless people. Well, specifically men/boys. But, let me tell you, Vaazha shouldn't be gender specific. 

Because, as a woman, I check almost all the criteria that describes a Vaazha. 

But sure, we women are often not put into that bracket because the societal expectations from us is different from that of men. So we are other things and they are Vaazha. 

Now, what makes me a vaazha, you may ask. To begin with, I have never been academically bright. Not so bad though, the typical average student, until my parents decided to put me into Engineering. The only other option that was given to me was to take up medicine. Lol. 

I complied to their decision only because I had zero clue about life or career. Nor did I wanted to. I had decided on my future when I was probably 12 or 13. Get a graduation, let parents find a guy settled abroad as my groom, get married, settle in the US or UK, do household chores, give birth to 5 boys and take care of the family - typical Indian girl conditioned dreams. 🥲

But, engineering college had other plans for me. There was first love, which was not part of the plan, suppl's that wasn't the plan either, slutshaming... Hmmm, who expects that... So on and so forth. I hated each and every day I spent in that goddamn college. I don't even have a fond memory to start with. I hated my life and everything that made me go to that college. And my frustration was at peak, ofcourse, who else to show it to other than parents? The rebel. 

I had become a vaazha even before I could fathom.

But, unlike the actual vaazha boys, I somehow managed to find a job, and am still working, but am I successful? Lol. 

Now, coming back to the abroad dreams.

Well, you might have guessed it already. None of it materialised. 

But am I disappointed? Hell no!

Life has changed, perspectives have changed, and in a way, I am glad I chose the Vaazha path instead of the pre-planned slave path. 

I just watched the film Vaazha which made me write all these. Since it was too relatable, I really liked it, except for the climax - I mean where parents support the boys. Lol, no way! It was entertaining, nevertheless, atleast to me. 

Alright then. Signing off. 

Mutated Vaazha