Rules for Procreation

I know, you might be wondering "she has never procreated, who the hell is she to give us this lecture" after reading this entire post, but I can explain 😊 I am a great observer IMO, and above all, being a daughter, I can definitely tell you how a parent should or shouldn't be. So, here I go! 

First of all, please do not bring a life into the world because you feel empty and lonely. Or because, your parents or in-laws want to pamper a grandchild. Procreate only when you have the right reasons, and most importantly, when you are ready for it. That's the first rule. 

Now, once you decide to procreate, you need to understand that your child or children are your and your partner's responsibility. Sometimes, you may not be able to give it all to them, which is understandable, but DO NOT even consider having a child thinking your old parents would look them after. No, that may not be their retirement plan!

Next, consider giving birth only if you have the resources to bring them up. This not only includes financial stability, but emotional capacity, mental stability and physical health too. 

The next rule, is similar to one of the points above. Let me repeat that again - your child is your responsibility. This means you may have to make sacrifices for them. Sometimes, even a single parent is enough, but you may have to make bigger sacrifices, but you don't have a choice - their future and mental health depends on how you treat them. You must be available for them, need to spend more time with them, you may have to listen to them 24x7, about most trivial things - you ought to make that journey easy for them. Sometimes, what what matters the most to them is your presence - please do not deprive them of it or make it feel like a luxury. 

All of these means one thing - it's a big responsibility and no child's play. Get into it only when you are absolutely ready for it. Of course, each parent's journey is different and it is no easy task, but once you take that decision, it's not about you, all of it becomes about them. 

There will be days when you want and crib and whine, cry for an entire day or two, or just run away, but you gotta hold yourself together. It's never easy, but your decision decides the fate of another human and even if you cannot give them your best, don't give them trauma. 

Ok bye.