The Purpose of Life!

Many a time you fail to figure out the purpose of your life. It may not always be making money, or travelling around, or eating good food or living with parents or meeting as many people as possible. Something else, which you fail to give a thought on. You live with the flow, follow the majority and live your life the way others want. You study, but never learn. You find a job that satisfies the world's requirements. You get married at the 'right' age. You have kids 'before its too late'. And one day you die without knowing why you lived all those years. You might die happy, and you think that possibly be the purpose of your life, but if at all given a thought, you would have found something extraordinary as the purpose to have been alive.

Some go against the flow; they become what the world wouldn't want them to be. They would be the most ridiculed ones; the ones who take all the pain and tantrums from every nook and corner just because they want to pursue a dream and find a purpose to be alive. And one day they become successful and the rest of the world follow their path proclaiming that's the right thing to do. And the value for that 'purpose' gets devalued.

The world has a lot more to explore and the intelligence man possesses if used wisely can bring up way better things than what we have now. If only we knew that the path every Tom, Dick and Harry choose is not always the right thing to do; there's something called 'passion' and that has to be treated well; each one of us would have had a better reason to smile than just sit, watch, appreciate and idolize one or two who have actually done it with their lives. Its good to try, but to try for what's worth takes a lot of courage!

Women are NOT safe in India, But why?

Rape, molesting and human trafficking have now become a common thing as well as a term that has been discussed quite often. People come up with various reasons on why women get raped or molested. And the major reason being ‘men’, of course! But, I would want to see it from another perspective and through that, I would say, the reason behind all these mishaps are ‘women’ on first place. Now, you might be pointing fingers at me asking how, being a woman, can I say that! Well, you have not yet gotten the whole perspective!

Women travelling alone during odd hours, their skimpy clothing, boozing, or hanging out with men are NOT my reasons. I always believe that, like men, women also should have their freedom and power to take decisions. Now, I will tell you why I said women cause rape. Well it is simple. Let’s consider this scenario. A girl got raped at some part of the country. We all will feel bad for her, and will panic too, and then, turn towards the women in our house and neighborhood. The next thing we would do is PREACH showing this as an example on why women are NOT supposed to be alone or independent on first place.

Women would get the shock of their lives and would pledge that they won’t let themselves go through the same thing as the ‘victim’ did. No one wants to be victimized you see! But then, what about those who have no other choice but go out during odd times to earn their bread and butter? They would be asked to sit at home?

What’s been happening is that, once news on rape gets widespread, women take precaution- not to step out of their house. And the ones who do, get targeted and this would become a trend. Every woman would gradually sit at home, no child will be allowed to go to school; girls will be getting married at a tender age and we would eventually go back to the era where women would be used as tools for man’s pleasure and for doing household chores. Only because we are AFRAID; afraid of getting raped! Because men won’t change, so women better handle it this way. And we have been fighting for ages for equality!

I would say nothing should stop us, women. We should rather gain courage and fight this out, together. Don’t stop yourself from stepping out of your houses; get yourself free from all the thoughts and the morons around. Independence is what we have been craving for, after all! As the number of women in the streets increase, no matter what time of the day it is,things would be safer,  is what I feel! Don’t panic when something goes wrong, have the courage to react.

Both men and women, instead of preaching your daughters, sisters, wives and daughter in laws to sit at home, teach them to REACT. Tell them that the precaution to save is NOT closing themselves up or not wearing something they are comfortable in. Teach them defensive methods; make them stronger. Tell them that they don’t belong to any weaker section; they are strong too in their own ways.

And women, you can learn from others mistakes, but backing out is NOT a remedy. Fight it out. Because, no one has the authority over you. The more you panic, worse things will be.You don’t have to ask for independence from anyone, you are born free. Get rid of your fear, and go out whenever you want. You are no one's slave. Its ok to take chances. Practice the things mentioned above and fly high!

Beauty - Lies in the eyes of who?

I was grown up watching movies and reading stories where boys & gals, men & women fall in love with each other, get married and live happily ever after. Where the girl might be extremely pretty, amazingly gorgeous and sometimes too hot to handle. And the guy, might be fat/short/dark/handicapped or sometimes all of them. He would still be so charming for the smokin' hot gal to fall for. I used to fancy all these when a kid and used to love the fact that gals not always fancy only men with six packs or who are super hot. Now I wonder why this has to happen. Why don't men fell for women who are dark or not even close to pretty and I've been seeking answers for this behavior!

Does that mean ONLY women follow 'beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder' format and men's eyes only see external beauty? Or is it that women who are not beautiful shouldn't be loved at all? Most of the male actors when looked closely wouldn't even have enough physical strength to fight with a street dog, but they would be fighting with 20 villains who would be double his height and weight, save the girl and walk off like nothing happened. And that super hot chick would be impressed and fancying him thereafter. She would be seen stalking him, begging him to fall in love and finally gets the guy! What bullshit!

I am not saying there are no female actors who are not 'pretty' by looks, but aren't they used only for humor? There are exceptions, like an 'Ugly Betty' but she's UGLY, or a Jassie who was accepted by her love when she had a complete make over.... screw you! I don't understand their logic at all. If for men looking physically endearing is not important, then why is it important when it comes to the female counterpart? Agree trends are being changing, everyone wants six packed super hot men now, but aren't the other category still ruling the charts? Why haven't anyone ever tried making a handsome guy fall for a not-so-good-looking girl not out of sympathy but out of true love at least once?

Another thing is about women proposing men. There would be this cute girl who the male lead loves, and a super hot woman who wants the same guy, who tries to woo him because she is madly in love with him, but she gets rejected only because he is in love with another girl. At the same time, even if the girl is in love with another guy, when the hero acts crazy for her, she falls for him, every single time. Why are these film makers so much interested in showing that women are bitches, ALWAYS?

Why do people always give importance to external beauty but applicable only for women? If women are to be beautiful and men are not be macho, then why aren't all the male actors macho men? I WANT ANSWERS.

All these irk me and deeply and unfortunately this trend is been followed in real life too. I wish people start accepting the fact that external beauty is not important. Someone please stop this nonsense and bring to light that looks doesn't matter, be it for a man or a woman. Or atleast correct me if I am wrong. 

Love failures...

We grew up hearing this term 'Love Failure' both in movies and in real life, with pun intended and sometimes otherwise. When someone grows a beard, or keeps a stubble, drinks more than usual, stays off grid or does not plan to date someone or get married, we hear this phrase floating around. I've asked people, have also been bombarded with the same question at various instances. 'Love failure' happens one breaks up with his/her girlfriend/boyfriend, never gets to be with the one they love. But now, I wonder why we call it 'love failure'.

Does love actually fail? NO! Love never fails. It's people who fail - to express their feelings; to understand; to hold on to the one they love; to let their love go; to love unconditionally; to stop expecting more than what the other could ever give; and finally, to fall for the wrong one. 

 Love is such an unexplainable feeling that can happen to anyone, anytime, anywhere. To keep it live is our responsibility. There's no fake love, its people who fake; love is true, ALWAYS. We fail at making choices and decisions, so why blaming it on love? :-)

Love never fails. People do, miserably, dispiritedly and  terribly. So call it a break up or something of your choice, but never 'love failure'!

And yes, people don't get married, or stay single, or grow beard or get drunk for various other reasons. Like, for instance, a beard/stubble is the hottest thing men can ever have, and getting drunk makes one feel lighter !