Its neither something no one's aware of nor a new thing that people change accordingly and that every relation is arranged according to everyone's convenience. Not every friend is a friend and a family, family. And if you are trying to make a family member a friend, or a friend your family, later at some point of time, you would realize, you were doing it wrong!
It takes a lot of courage, substance and effort to be someone that you are, someone original, someone genuine and that would possibly be the only reason why you wouldn't fear to tell the society those things that come to your mind or talk without analyzing what should be said to whom. But if pleasing everyone is what you are looking at, then you have to compromise a lot on being original and that ain't you !!! And if that makes you lose certain relations that was just too dear to you and you alone, then never bother to look back or try to save it 'cos each effort you make is just a lot of time wasted!
It takes a lot of courage, substance and effort to be someone that you are, someone original, someone genuine and that would possibly be the only reason why you wouldn't fear to tell the society those things that come to your mind or talk without analyzing what should be said to whom. But if pleasing everyone is what you are looking at, then you have to compromise a lot on being original and that ain't you !!! And if that makes you lose certain relations that was just too dear to you and you alone, then never bother to look back or try to save it 'cos each effort you make is just a lot of time wasted!
When you actually care about what you say to whom, it's not out of fear of loosing a relationship. The pretensions and social niceties exist because it makes the world more bearable. If everyone said what they had in mind without caring about consequences, eventually, you will be on the receiving end of someone's ill considered words. Would not be a pleasant experience if you actually cared about the person.
ReplyDeleteSo I guess people are nice because they want to be treated nice. The lies and pretensions are part of you, as a person, the very idea that you do not want to say something to someone, is also something that defines you.
So if one start saying whatever they want, to whomever they like, without garnishing and filtering it with the social niceties that is inherent in them, and if that resulted in a broken relationship, that happened because you were pretending to be someone other than you.